The Gift That Gives Back: Five Holiday Activities That Teach Empathy and Beat Boredom
School holidays are approaching with all the subtlety of a sugar-fuelled toddler at 6 AM. Soon, your little ones will be bouncing off the walls, you’ll hear “I’m bored” seventeen times before breakfast, and you’ll be wondering if it’s too early to start counting down to the new school term. Sure, you could let them binge-watch their way through the holidays, but what if there was a way to keep them busy that didn’t involve screens and actually reinforced all those life skills they’ve been learning at school?
With thousands of children across the country in need of a little extra kindness this festive season, why not use this time to teach your child the joy of giving?
Here are five ways to turn holiday boredom into meaningful memories and life lessons:
- 1. Screen Time with Soul: Sit down with your child and explore giving opportunities online together. Whether it’s a local toy drive or a children’s charity website, this small, shared action makes giving a conscious choice and establishes a team goal. It’s also a low-stakes introduction to digital literacy and navigating websites with purpose. For older kids, it becomes a valuable lesson in commitment and seeing a project through from its exciting start to its rewarding finish.
- 2. Choose a Child Like Them: Empathy is built by imagining yourself walking in someone else’s shoes, and this step helps your child do just that. When selecting a recipient, encourage them to connect with someone of the same age and gender. This creates a bridge of understanding, helping your child think, “This is for someone just like me”. It transforms the abstract concept of “a child in need” into a tangible, relatable person, making the act of giving deeply personal.
- 3. Pay It Forward: Turn a routine shopping trip into a mission with real-world stakes. Give your child a specific budget to purchase items for their chosen cause. Let them be in charge of the calculator and decision-making (with your guidance, of course). This becomes a hands-on lesson in basic mathematics and financial literacy. Your child will learn to make choices, prioritise needs over wants, and understand the value of money.
- 4. Write from the Heart: In a world of fleeting texts and emojis, a handwritten letter is an act of connection. Encourage your child to share their name, age, hobbies, or simply a warm holiday wish. This is one way of practising handwriting, spelling, and grammar without it feeling like homework. More importantly, it teaches your child how to structure their thoughts and communicate with kindness and clarity that will resonate long after the letter is read.
- 5. Creativity for a Cause: Transform your dining table into ground zero for creativity, accept that glitter will be found in random places until March, and watch your child turn humble materials into their masterpiece. Pro tip: hide the good scissors, lay down newspaper, and prepare for the kind of concentrated focus you usually only see when they’re trying to avoid bedtime. This is fine motor skills development disguised as fun.
“The beautiful thing about teaching kids to give back is that they accidentally become better humans in the process,” notes Deb Zelezniak, CEO of the Santa Shoebox Project. “They’re learning that happiness isn’t just about getting stuff, it’s about the warm, fuzzy feeling that comes from knowing you made someone else’s day a little brighter.”
For more information about what to pack and where to drop off, go to santashoebox.org.za
About the Santa Shoebox Project
Traditional Santa Shoebox: Over the last 19 years, 1 301 508 Santa Shoeboxes, each containing eight specified items of treats and essentials, have been given to underprivileged and socially vulnerable children throughout South Africa and Namibia. From 01 September each year, Santa Shoebox donors choose their beneficiary child/ren by name, age and gender and are given the child’s clothing size. Each personalised shoebox reaches the very child for whom it was pledged.
Virtual Santa Shoebox: These shoeboxes are purchased online by donors and are available year-round, meeting the needs of donors who live too far from drop-off points, are too busy to shop or have health issues. Components are chosen by the donor on the Santa Shoebox website, the shoeboxes are packed by the Santa Shoebox Team and delivered to children attending far-flung rural facilities. A VSS contains the eight specified items, as well as additional items, such as a lunchbox and books, and costs R500 plus an optional delivery fee of R30.
SSP Legacy: All Santa Shoebox Project operating costs are covered by corporate sponsors. Privately donated funds and surplus funds generated by the sale of Virtual Santa Shoeboxes accrue to the SSP Legacy and are used to bring permanent change to the lives of Santa Shoebox beneficiary children and the impoverished communities in which they live. SSP Legacy initiatives have thus far reached more than 125 000 children.
Fiduciary information: As a Level One Contributor to B-BBEE, the Santa Shoebox Project earns 100 points on the generic scorecard, and with Section 18A status, is able to provide a tax-deductible receipt in recognition of donations. The Project is an initiative of the JOG Trust (IT2671/2009). The Trust is registered as a Public Benefit Organisation (PBO-930031301), a Non-Profit Organisation (NPO 102-098) and holds a current ICPR in support of 100% SED compliance.
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